Quite
a few years ago, a lady called our church asking for food for her family. She explained that because they had hardly
any food left in her house, her children were going hungry. With the permission of our deacon and my
husband, I hurried to the store to buy her $70.00 worth of food, and I even copied
out recipe cards to accompany the groceries. Imagine my surprise later that day when this
lady met me in her kitchen and said, “I’m glad you caught us at home! We just got back from Walmart because we
needed to buy early birthday presents for both of our children!” While I had been out spending church tithes
on rice and chicken so her family could eat for another day, they had been out
spending their cash on toys and games!
I wish I could say that this lady is rare. Unfortunately, many people are ignorant of how to handle money or how to appreciate the money others give them. As a result of conversations like the one I had with this lady, many churches—including ours-- have had to develop careful policies about financial assistance. Here are just a few thoughts to help those who may find themselves confused about how to handle their money.
I wish I could say that this lady is rare. Unfortunately, many people are ignorant of how to handle money or how to appreciate the money others give them. As a result of conversations like the one I had with this lady, many churches—including ours-- have had to develop careful policies about financial assistance. Here are just a few thoughts to help those who may find themselves confused about how to handle their money.
1. Pinch
the pennies.
Imagine
standing on the top of a mountain. As
you look at the bottom, there is a heap of trash: McDonald’s sandwich wrappers, tickets from
rides at the county fair, pizza boxes, hotel receipts, chips bags—and sadly, maybe
even cigarette butts, tobacco canisters, and beer cans. For too many people, that trash heap
represents where their money went last year.
Christmas came, and they worried that they would not be able to buy
presents for their children. They
struggled to pay another electric bill in January, and their children don’t
stand a chance of getting braces.
Amazingly, the money had actually come in—but they didn’t recognize it
because it was copper, not green. Remember: Pennies
are money too. Just because your
money is showing up in the form of nickels and dimes instead of crispy “Ben
Franklins” doesn’t mean you have no money. Are the reading glasses your child needs “dressed
up” as last year’s Six Flags tickets in disguise?
“ . . .Take heed,
and beware of covetousness: for a man’s life
consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.” (Luke 12:15)
2.
Avoid discretionary spending if others are footing your bills.
Like
the lady who let us pay for chicken while she paid for video games, many people
are comfortable asking their family, the church, or the government to pay for their necessities
(food, medical, utilities, and gas) while they finance their hobbies,
birthdays, and junk food. Are you
purchasing luxury items that others are not able to afford because they are
paying for your necessities—either through their taxes, their tithes, their
kindness, or even because you owe them money through unpaid bills? If you find, after receiving benefits from others,
that you have money leftover—don’t buy the Wii or the electric piano or the
bike. Instead, pay off all debts and
then pray about how much you can reduce your dependence on others. You may be surprised that you might even have
enough money to pay for your own groceries after all.
“But my God shall
supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)
3. Give
anyway.
If
the widow with two mites (Mark 12:42) had enough to give, you and I have enough
to give. The Bible says that God asks
for a tithe (10%)--regardless of our income level. To neglect to tithe is to rob God (Malachi
3:8). Giving back to God increases our
faith because it brings us face to face with the reality that our money was
never “ours” in the first place. God
blesses a cheerful giver in ways that we cannot guess—sometimes with cold cash,
and sometimes with good health and a car that still runs.
“It is more blessed
to give than to receive.” (Acts 20:35)
4.
Expand your skills.
Tight
budgets make great teachers. Hair
cutting, cooking “from scratch”, mending, gardening, home maintenance, car
repair—What we would miss if we had a million dollars! If “knowledge
is power,” then tight budgets are “power boosters.” Learn how to “DIY”: do-it-yourself. And as long as libraries have free internet—what’s
not to know? I remember when I
discovered how to puree our meals into baby food and then freeze them in ice
cube trays for later. Voila! We just put
a few of those oddly-colored cubes into the microwave and served up three-course
meals to our babies whenever they were hungry.
“If any of you lack
wisdom, let him ask of God.” (James 1:5)
5. Chop,
chop, chop!
Cable
TV, a second car, dining out as a family, almost all beef, crackers, chips,
cookies, lunch meat, juice (of any kind), cereal, candy, pre-packaged dinners,
frozen pizza--These are just a few of the things that we simply do not buy on a
regular basis. Little by little over the
years, we learned that we did not need them.
What can you shave away and still be happy? While coupons and credit card rewards tend to
get the most publicity when it comes to cutting a weekly grocery bill, the
single most effective way to trim a budget is to permanently eliminate unnecessary items. Make
it a challenge to skip the “inner sections” of your grocery store—where bright boxes
and pretty packaging make up a large percentage of the grocery bill. Our grandparents grew up on ketchup
sandwiches to survive the depression, but we are a generation that longs for “creature
comforts.” We really can do without and
not feel deprived—with a little adjustment, of course!
“And having food
and raiment let us be therewith content.”
(I Timothy 6:8)
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Jesus said it best:
“Behold
the fowls of the air: for they sow not,
neither
do they reap, nor gather into barns;
yet
your heavenly Father feedeth them.
Are
ye not much better than they?” (Matt.
6:26)
Thank you for this common sense post. Could I be nosy and ask what policies your church developed for helping people. We, as many churches, face these requests for assistance often and are seeking to find a healthy balance. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteOh, that's not nosy at all! We have a form that we ask people to fill out. It has about 12 or 14 questions, such as "how many people live at this address?" and "what circumstances led you to be needing this assistance?" We also ask about substance abuse and we ask if we may have the privilege of counseling them regarding their finances. Then we ask them to give the form to us at a service, so that we can give them the gospel and not just money. Our deacon reviews the form and decides if and how much assistance they need. Because I do not have any control of the money, it saves me a lot of the "pressure tactics" people try to use on the phone. I always have to tell them that I cannot make any decisions regarding the finances. So that helps take the pressure off me. We have had some visit the church and return their form.
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